We Will Not Be Happy!

Nah, we'll be happy eventually, but we'll be happy on our own schedule dammit!

The Bod Mod Double-Standard

As many of you know, in addition to being a goth/punk/metalhead I am also a furry. If you missed what all that entails, I explain it in an older post. And in order to complete my look I was looking for ways to make my eyes look bigger for that wide-eyed kitten look. When I mentioned this to my boyfriend, he suggested that I look up the Living Barbie Doll and Living Anime Girl. My first reaction was... um, what's that? Well...

And before you say anything... Yes, those are real people and not dolls or Gaia characters or anything like that. The only CG doctoring on this photo is for the eye color and red hair color. And yes, both have had a small amount of cosmetic surgery done in order to have the full look that they were hoping for, but these are real women. To be honest, I find their transformations kind of amazing. Just their eye makeup alone can take upwards of 20 minutes to complete and that's not even mentioning the rigorous work outs and strict diets they both adhere to to keep their bodies in the perfect shape.

This is the point where a lot of you start asking what this has to do with alternative and underground. Well... everything really. There is so much controversy surrounding these women and those like them that have achieved the look of living dolls. So I have to ask the question, why are people so adverse to these "living dolls" when people like Lizard Man and Tiger Man are more widely accepted?

Seriously, look at these pictures and tell me why these tattooed and modified "freaks" are more accepted than living dolls?

All of these people are modified to make themselves more comfortable in their own bodies. But even as tattoos and piercings have become more popular and accepted, the modifications that the living dolls undergo still remain a hot topic button. People are constantly preaching that women should feel more comfortable in their bodies or that women should be themselves instead of conforming. Well, what if this is what these women do to make themselves feel comfortable in their own skin and in their hearts they feel like they should be dolls? I feel like I should truly be a cat, how is that any different?

I think part of it comes from the aversion to having women be viewed as objects rather than people. That I fully agree with. But you cannot set the double-standard that one type of modification is accepted and the other one is taboo. Please tell me that someone else sees the total backwards thinking in this?

All I Can Say Is...

Foamy Talks Genitals

Yeah, I know, not that big of a leap. But he makes a very good point about genitals in general... That sounded a lot less weird in my head...

Attack on Cosplayers

My discovery today seems like a pretty appropriate follow-up to my last blog post. Yup, you guessed it... I've found yet another reason to explain my general and utter hatred for humanity.

Now, if you've followed my blog at all, you'll know that I'm a lover of Japanese animation or anime. That being said, I also enjoy cosplay when I can actually manage to get a decent costume put together. OK I enjoy dressing up in costume for damn near anything. Cosplayers are not known for enjoying the higher rungs on the social climbing ladders and quite frankly, we don't care because that would be a direct killjoy to the fun we have dressing up.

Naturally, we expect there to be some... let's say difference of ideology, between us and people who think that dressing up in costumes is best reserved for children under 10 and Halloween. For whatever idiotic reason, there are people who consistently walk around outside of the San Diego Comic-Con waving around religious signs about avoiding sin and turning to Jesus...

I've still yet to figure out what their motive behind this is... Well despite these morons, we still don't care. We're too busy having fun to be bothered by it.

The problem comes when these "normalcy" fucks decide to take it to the next level and add assault to the repertoire. While I was on Facebook I read a delightful little blog post about a high schooler who decided to wear their cosplay to school when a convention was in town. The logic in this? If it couldn't survive a day at school it wasn't going to survive a weekend at the convention. Sounds reasonable enough to me. Well... ugh, just read the damn thing. It makes me too pissed off just thinking about it...

http://iamthedavrezi.tumblr.com/post/84720306678/on-friday-i-went-to-school-in-my-grell-cosplay

Yeah... Please tell me in what fucking universe this twisted fuck's brain had to be in to just randomly assault another student for wearing a COSPLAY?! And as for the little cunts who were applauding this sick behavior, while I try to avoid wishing violence upon people these days, I would dearly love to see you get caught in a dark alley with a gang banger. Saying that you sicken me is one of the grossest understatements I've ever spoken. Just because you're so repressed that you couldn't tell your real personality if it came up and kicked you in the pussy, doesn't mean you have any right or justification to attack someone and applaud the attacker for their actions against someone who enjoys exactly who and what they are. We're freaks and we're proud of it! You're just a bunch of pathetic posers who think they know what the definition of normal is...

Foamy's Advice on Advice

Oh gods can I relate to this... This was the story of my life all through high school...

What Not to Say to a Misanthrope

I'll be the first one to raise my hand and admit that goths are the likeliest to be anti-social and misanthropic. This can be for any variety of reasons, but the most popular is because the majority of humans are raging morons that can't think beyond their own selfish wants. This is definitely not to say that we're unfriendly, we try and reserve judgement until after a few sentences come out of your mouth. After all, it would be pretty hypocritical if we judged everyone right off the bat.

Nonetheless, we are still anti-social and we can be misanthropes. And being a misanthrope myself, there's a few phrases and questions that I've heard repeatedly throughout the years. These are things that you either a) shouldn't say to someone who's anti-social/misanthropic or b) sound really stupid and only serve to reinforce our view that humans are idiots. And we'll start off with

1) "If you don't like people you're in the wrong business."
This is easily the one I've heard the most, and it only gets more and more aggravating every time I hear it. Any time you mention a dislike of people in the work place (especially if you work in retail or food service) this is everyone's first reaction. Would someone please explain to me why this is something people are compelled to tell me? Do they really think I'm so dense that I don't realize that being in the workforce will expose me to multitudes of people? Or maybe they're trying to be clever? Newsflash! It's not clever, or funny, or entertaining in any way.

2) "You only hate people because you're afraid of them." 
Uh, excuse me, what? People openly avoid me because I'm creepy and I'm afraid of them? Where is the logic in this? Is it coming from the "you fear what you don't understand" thing? If it is I would like to add to it a big fat "HELL NO." For me, my hatred of people stems from the fact that I know too much about human nature from constant observation. Facebook alone is a hive of human nature at its best and worst, and there's far more of the worst than there is of the best. If there's anything that I'm afraid of it's the constant displays of stupidity, which has become a commodity that people seem to be clamoring to own.

3) "Have you tried not hating people?" 
The next time you meet someone who's a total jackass, try and not hate them. This is like trying to tell someone to love a racist or someone who's homophobic. Only fellow jackasses can love someone who is a jackass, and even then it proves difficult because jackasses tend to clash with each other even more than non-jackasses do.

4) "You'll never have any friends." 
I have two very tight-knit circles of friends, most of whom are fellow misanthropes, and they are more like family to me than my own family. And this doesn't even qualify for people who are perfectly fine with being on their own. No one wants to hear that they're capable of being alone because being alone has become the world's most crippling fear. If you don't want to find your soul-mate or be around friends on weekends, there has to be something wrong with you. You're depressed, you're paranoid, you're a shut-in, you're this, you're that, blah blah blah blah blah.

5) "It isn't healthy." 
Neither is going around every day acting like the world is made out of sunshine and unicorn farts and that everyone is a bright little ball of star dust. I knew someone before that would send me a picture of a helmet every time I put a frustrated or angry or depressed post on Facebook. The final time he did it was right after my grandmother died. No questions, just a helmet to say "Life's tough, get a helmet."  His reasoning? "You can't let everything in life stop you short." Yeah, this coming from someone who's solution to every problem was to stare down the bottom of a bong. I have nothing against potheads, but I do have issues against people who think that you should just plow through every problem headfirst no matter how difficult or emotionally scarring. Very few people have the ability to be helpful in a difficult situation. One of the glorious parts of being a misanthrope is you're able to find the ones who are with a lot more ease. And when someone isn't helpful or is actually toxic, it's that much easier to cut the cords and burn the bridges.

So on the off chance that you are not a misanthrope and run into one in the near future, do everyone a favor and steer clear of these questions and statements. You're not doing humanity any favors in trying to "convert" and misanthrope and "make them see the light."